Friday, October 18, 2013

And then someone . . . was offended.

Source: Ya
It all started HERE. People offended over a plus-sized actress dressed in a baggy coat for a photo shoot. Complaining that it isn't fair or it isn't right that she was dressed in something baggy.

I am about to be blatantly honest; I actually think she looks GREAT in that picture. You know what else I think? I think it's so awesome that there is a gorgeous woman on that cover and she is fully clothed!

If anything, I am more offended when women do photo shoots for magazines like this one and pretty much do it naked or close enough to it that they might as well be.

But that's not even my point. No, it was this article that happened to be my breaking point for another issue entirely.

Being offended. 

Yep, that is the real crime in this entire thing. And it isn't just an issue with this article. These days it does not matter what you say or do, someone will be offended. 

And to be honest? Well I kinda summed up my feelings on it yesterday via Facebook. 

Read the post on Facebook HERE.

I can't be alone in this. If I got offended over everything that I could be offended over, I would pretty much be friendless. For example . . . do you know how often my name is misspelled? Let's just say OFTEN! Does it annoy me? Sometimes. But mostly I brush it off. It truly is not that big of a deal! I would rather remain friends with someone who isn't sure which way to spell my name than lose that friend because they had a typo!

Picture of me taken summer of 2013 at the age of 20. 

Can I tell you often I am taken for a 12 year old? Not really. It happens weekly, sometimes daily. Does it sting? YES! Does it annoy me? YES! Can I truly be mad at someone for thinking I am 12? Not really! Because seriously, I don't look my age (most of the time)! It's just the way it is. If it happened once or twice? Yes, I would have a right to be angry. But because it happens so often, clearly the majority of people truly believe I am that young!

My point? I can see how things are offensive, I understand why people are offended (to some things, others still baffle me). But I also know that it is the stupidest reason in the world to lose friends or potential friends.

Stop letting everything offend you! Don't just say you're offended, give me a reason. Stand up for your beliefs. But stop with "I'm offended . . . because of reasons!" I get it. No matter what is said or done, someone will be offended. Learn to let it go, walk away or stand up, but don't fight from the sidelines.


  1. The worst part is not the being offended it's the people that are being offended on behalf of someone else. If those people want to be offended, let them be offended and say so.

    1. That is such a fantastic point that I totally skipped right over! Thank you!! I agree.

  2. I really can't understand how people can expect others to change because of their own insecurities. It is the ultimate selfishness. When you pressure them for a reason, they can't give one. Because it ALWAYS comes down to their own feelings ofinadequacy. And they they can't admit that to anyone, including themselves.

  3. Everyone gets offended. The key is not to dwell on it. Acknowledge and get over it.

  4. Oh my gosh, YES. You said all this so well. My dad always warned me that people don't like other people who are easily offended. That has always steered me in the right direction, thank goodness.